Prevention of Sexual Violence Begins With Educating Boys

Sexual violence is a serious issue that needs to be addressed in our society. However, prevention efforts often focus solely on protecting girls, rather than educating boys. 

From an early age, girls are taught rules to protect themselves in public spaces. They are taught not to go out alone, to pay attention to their clothing, and to avoid potentially dangerous situations. However, despite following all prevention steps correctly, women remain vulnerable to sexual violence. Statistics show that women are 13 times more likely to experience harassment in public spaces than men. Most victims of harassment are dressed modestly and/or wear hijabs1. 

The data above confirms that prevention by protecting girls alone is not enough to address the issue of sexual violence. Therefore, educating boys about the importance of respecting and protecting others should be a priority. 

In addition to educating on reproductive health, Here are six guidelines for parents to educate their boys to be part of the solution to combat sexual violence:

1. Start Early: Sexual violence prevention education should begin in boys at a young age (5 years and younger). Encourage them to respect and value others through actions and words. 
2. Teach Equality: Avoid imposing traditional gender roles or stereotypes on children in everyday life. Let boys be empathetic and sensitive without conveying the message that boys should be strong and tough. 
3. Discuss Consent: When boys are between the ages of 5-12, start talking about the concept of consent. Explain what consent is, how to ask for it, and the importance of respecting others’ consent. 
4. Teach Critical Thinking about Sexual Violence: Train boys to think critically about topics related to sexual violence. Ask critical questions about sexist comments or jokes and discuss their negative impacts and how to respond wisely. 
5. Discuss Pornography: As boys approach adolescence, they may become curious about pornography. Explain that sexual curiosity is normal but provides understanding of the negative effects of pornography, such as potentially eliciting inappropriate behavior. 
6. Discuss Intimacy: Discuss healthy intimate relationships and sexuality as children transition into adolescence. Explain the importance of honest communication and mutual respect in healthy relationships. 

Teaching boys to respect and protect others is an important task that is not only the responsibility of individuals or families but also a social responsibility. Start educating boys that self-worth is not only about the ability to protect or dominate but also about the ability to build good relationships, communicate with empathy, create inclusive communities, and make positive contributions. 

Moreover, it is also necessary to educate boys that their needs lie in creating meaningful lives. By involving them in efforts to prevent sexual violence, we can create a safer and more equitable environment for everyone. 

Reference: 

1 Survei Pelecehan Seksual di Ruang Publik di tahun 2018 selama 16 Hari Anti Kekerasan Terhadap Perempuan (16HAKTP) yang diinisiasi oleh Koalisi Ruang Publik Aman (KRPA) dan difasilitasi oleh Change.org Indonesia. 

2 Teaching our sons to prevent sexual abuse. (n.d.). Psychology Today.  https://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/blog/protecting-children-sexual-abuse/202106/teaching-our-sons-prevent-sexual-abuse